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- BlogDear Reader: Welcome to my very first blog! This blog represents the next step of faith in a journey I never could have imagined ten years ago, a path full of unexpected turns, rich discoveries and shared connections—personal connections to some of you who might be reading at this very moment, as well as a larger sense of shared practice, kinship, and brotherhood with many of you whom I will never meet. What I now call “Touch Practice” began as an effort to explore and heal my own body. I thought of it as something I created, something invented or made up, just for me. I slowly realized that while it was profoundly healing for me, it also seemed to have tremendous benefit for others, and so it became something for “we” rather than something just for “me.” I began to think of Touch Practice as a form of partnership. Next, I understood that something I imagined I had created or invented myself actually existed before I found it—Touch Practice is more accurately something I discovered, something I became aware of rather than creating. I came to understand that this aspect of touch has probably existed in an infinite variety…
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The Power of Intention
4When a sailor takes a boat out on a journey, there’s usually an aiming point, a destination, a course that has been charted. Only if the sailor is very lucky can one follow the wind directly to that destination; having the “wind at your back” …
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The last hug
This weekend’s blog is dedicated with affection to the beautiful, full-hearted men of the Tampa workshop. I’ve written much here about what I’ve learned from physically holding hundreds of men in 60-90 minute individual sessions. Much of that information I have gleaned from the “approach …
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The Naked Truth
One of the common misconceptions about Touch Practice–and perhaps other kinds of bodywork–is that naked practice is somehow more intimate, more engaged, more exciting, more challenging or more interesting than clothed practice. Nothing could be further from the truth. I think I believed this myself, …
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The neighborhood bully
I hate bullies. I have no tolerance for them whatsoever. I have neither time nor patience for them and I am not willing to make any space for them in my life. One of the most powerful, and relatively recent, discoveries in my spiritual journey …
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Keeping Fire
I grew up in a house that was heated by wood fires, one upstairs and one downstairs. My dad was the keeper of those fires until I became old enough to gradually take over that role. I’ve tended, literally, thousands of fires as I was …
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Appetite and Need
In this weekend’s blog, I want to explore the distance between appetite (what we think we need in order to be well) vs. need (what we actually do need.) These two things are frequently misaligned, sometimes drastically so. Let me give you some examples: Americans …
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Managing Emotional Pain
In the process of holding and sitting with many men, as with my own life, I’ve noticed different approaches for managing emotional pain. Most of us use all of these strategies at one time or another. Each strategy can be effective, or ineffective, depending on …
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How Will It Go?
I’m impressed this week by how difficult it is to show up to our next experience, ANY experience, without having written, in some small way, an advance script of “how it will go.” This happens to me at work all the time. A meeting might …
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The Body Never Lies
The body is the only piece of original equipment in our human experience. Everything else is an add-on, something we build, import, synthesize, imagine, or acquire. The only part of you that is “original you” is your body. The rest is manmade. When a baby …
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Memory, Fantasy, Reality, and Time
Eckhart Tolle’s brilliant book The Power of Now argues compellingly that the only thing that really exists, at all, is the thing we experience as “right now,” this moment. I think this book is insightful, and on one level I completely agree with him. The power of being …
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