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- BlogDear Reader: Welcome to my very first blog! This blog represents the next step of faith in a journey I never could have imagined ten years ago, a path full of unexpected turns, rich discoveries and shared connections—personal connections to some of you who might be reading at this very moment, as well as a larger sense of shared practice, kinship, and brotherhood with many of you whom I will never meet. What I now call “Touch Practice” began as an effort to explore and heal my own body. I thought of it as something I created, something invented or made up, just for me. I slowly realized that while it was profoundly healing for me, it also seemed to have tremendous benefit for others, and so it became something for “we” rather than something just for “me.” I began to think of Touch Practice as a form of partnership. Next, I understood that something I imagined I had created or invented myself actually existed before I found it—Touch Practice is more accurately something I discovered, something I became aware of rather than creating. I came to understand that this aspect of touch has probably existed in an infinite variety…
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Sticks and Stones
1“What other people think of you is none of your business.” In the course of carrying Touch Practice, I have been made into a hero, and I have been made into a villain. In the first category, some have attributed almost guru-like qualities to me, …
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The Teacher is in the Room!
When I was younger, I had a type of cancer that very few people survive. The diagnosis felt like a huge problem at the time, and I suppose it was. Ultimately I survived, but not before really giving serious thought to dying, and to understanding …
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Getting Rightsized
I think all of us, unless we are very lucky or very insightful or both, probably have had at least one experience of either overestimating or underestimating our “size” relative to the rest of the world. We think of ourselves as more (or less) powerful …
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So, is it naked or not?
A FASCINATING conversation has come up this week in corresponding with a number of readers, as well as workshop organizers in several cities, about Touch Practice. The basic essence of that conversation is: “so, you’re sending a double message. Is it naked or is it …
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Asheville Update
For today, just an informational update rather than anything too in depth. Besides, we’re coming up on the shortest, darkest day of the year, and while I know there are still 24 hours in every day, I don’t know about you, but my days feel really …
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That was great! Can we have sex now?
It does not happen often anymore, but it does still happen from time to time that I will finish a session with someone, go through the closing process (which is a bit like the shavasana period in yoga) and conclude our practice. Then, despite all …
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With Thanksgiving
This Thanksgiving weekend, I thought I would take a moment for gratitude, to give thanks for the many people and events who have moved me forward in Touch Practice and helped me find my way. I give thanks for all of those men who answered …
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Refraction!
As far as Touch Practice is concerned, I seem to have entered a period of profound reflection. At least that’s how I would describe it. Then a few weeks ago, one of my practice brothers and friends, a scientist, said, “I think you’re in a …
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Chasing the First High
The phrase “chasing the first high” comes from addiction medicine, where the addict will return to a substance over and over again hoping to duplicate that first euphoric experience. But often, that first high is never to be had again. Subsequent experiences are never quite …
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Moving on!
A good friend of mine who went through a particularly bitter divorce ten years ago refers with laughter to her “starter marriage.” She says, “I’m so glad I had a relationship where I made every possible mistake I could make, so that I could figure …
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