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- BlogDear Reader: Welcome to my very first blog! This blog represents the next step of faith in a journey I never could have imagined ten years ago, a path full of unexpected turns, rich discoveries and shared connections—personal connections to some of you who might be reading at this very moment, as well as a larger sense of shared practice, kinship, and brotherhood with many of you whom I will never meet. What I now call “Touch Practice” began as an effort to explore and heal my own body. I thought of it as something I created, something invented or made up, just for me. I slowly realized that while it was profoundly healing for me, it also seemed to have tremendous benefit for others, and so it became something for “we” rather than something just for “me.” I began to think of Touch Practice as a form of partnership. Next, I understood that something I imagined I had created or invented myself actually existed before I found it—Touch Practice is more accurately something I discovered, something I became aware of rather than creating. I came to understand that this aspect of touch has probably existed in an infinite variety…
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The Declaration of Interdependence
Dedicated with fondness and respect to my brothers from the Asheville workshop. Imagine a rich, lush garden, with row after row after row of healthy green plants, producing every variety of vegetable, above and below ground, vegetables of every size and color and shape. And …
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Preparing to Embrace the Unknown
I’m getting ready to head to Asheville, NC, for my first visit to what seems like a very cool little town, and the workshop that will take place there next weekend. There has been a lot of preparation for this moment logistically, but even more …
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Holding Other
I get a good amount of mail from people asking if Touch Practice can be used to change a person’s sexual orientation. Comically, I get harsh accusations from some men alleging that I’m trying to turn perfectly “normal” straight guys (as they see it) into …
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Aged to Perfection
I have done individual Touch Practice with men ranging in age from 19 to 82. I have noticed in my own personal practice, as well as during workshops, that there are sometimes powerful forces that exist in all Touch Practice that are exaggerated or amplified …
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Me and my tiger
I often describe the process of my own recovery from childhood sexual abuse as a little bit like being roommates with a gigantic cat, like a panther or a tiger. For many years, the cat simply slept, all the time—it took up an enormous amount …
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Sticks and Stones
“What other people think of you is none of your business.” In the course of carrying Touch Practice, I have been made into a hero, and I have been made into a villain. In the first category, some have attributed almost guru-like qualities to me, …
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The Teacher is in the Room!
When I was younger, I had a type of cancer that very few people survive. The diagnosis felt like a huge problem at the time, and I suppose it was. Ultimately I survived, but not before really giving serious thought to dying, and to understanding …
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Getting Rightsized
I think all of us, unless we are very lucky or very insightful or both, probably have had at least one experience of either overestimating or underestimating our “size” relative to the rest of the world. We think of ourselves as more (or less) powerful …
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So, is it naked or not?
A FASCINATING conversation has come up this week in corresponding with a number of readers, as well as workshop organizers in several cities, about Touch Practice. The basic essence of that conversation is: “so, you’re sending a double message. Is it naked or is it …
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