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- BlogDear Reader: Welcome to my very first blog! This blog represents the next step of faith in a journey I never could have imagined ten years ago, a path full of unexpected turns, rich discoveries and shared connections—personal connections to some of you who might be reading at this very moment, as well as a larger sense of shared practice, kinship, and brotherhood with many of you whom I will never meet. What I now call “Touch Practice” began as an effort to explore and heal my own body. I thought of it as something I created, something invented or made up, just for me. I slowly realized that while it was profoundly healing for me, it also seemed to have tremendous benefit for others, and so it became something for “we” rather than something just for “me.” I began to think of Touch Practice as a form of partnership. Next, I understood that something I imagined I had created or invented myself actually existed before I found it—Touch Practice is more accurately something I discovered, something I became aware of rather than creating. I came to understand that this aspect of touch has probably existed in an infinite variety…
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Checkout Time: Touch Practice and Dissociation
One of the wonderful things that can happen during a Touch Practice session is that the person I am working with becomes so comfortable and relaxed, he drifts off to sleep and naps while I hold him. Sometimes it is actual sleep, complete with purring, …
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Holding the Enemy
1My favorite moment in my undergraduate ethics class came one day during this exchange: “How many of you feel that killing other people is evil?” (all hands went up) “How many of you feel that Hitler was an evil person?” (all hands went up) “If you …
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Old Enough to Be Your Dad
Those of you familiar with my story know that Touch Practice began as a kind of “hobby” for me, a personal indulgence. It did not begin with the name it has now; instead, I and a few close friends kept referring to it as “my hugging …
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News from the World of Touch Practice
I realize it has been a while since I’ve blogged. Sometimes blogging comes in seasons for me and needs some “down time” to let the garden regenerate. I don’t know that I’m ready to start writing regular weekly articles again, but I did want to …
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Leadership, Power, and Touch
All of us have met someone we perceive as a “powerful” person. And each of us at one time or another has felt “powerful” in a situation. While there are many different ways to define and describe what we’re talking about here, one of my …
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Fear, Part Two: Feeling it
I want to follow up today on two recent blog topics–one about bullying, the other about fear–by reporting one of the most interesting and useful spiritual journeys I have taken in perhaps the past five years. The very simple exercise that I engaged was, “what …
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All things are connected
This blog follows from an exquisite Touch Practice last Friday where, after only a few minutes had passed, I had the sense that I was with a close friend that I had not seen for a very long time. My partner reported a similar experience, …
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Chasing the First High
The phrase “chasing the first high” comes from addiction medicine, where the addict will return to a substance over and over again hoping to duplicate that first euphoric experience. But often, that first high is never to be had again. Subsequent experiences are never quite …
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The Power of Intention
When a sailor takes a boat out on a journey, there’s usually an aiming point, a destination, a course that has been charted. Only if the sailor is very lucky can one follow the wind directly to that destination; having the “wind at your back” …
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