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- BlogDear Reader: Welcome to my very first blog! This blog represents the next step of faith in a journey I never could have imagined ten years ago, a path full of unexpected turns, rich discoveries and shared connections—personal connections to some of you who might be reading at this very moment, as well as a larger sense of shared practice, kinship, and brotherhood with many of you whom I will never meet. What I now call “Touch Practice” began as an effort to explore and heal my own body. I thought of it as something I created, something invented or made up, just for me. I slowly realized that while it was profoundly healing for me, it also seemed to have tremendous benefit for others, and so it became something for “we” rather than something just for “me.” I began to think of Touch Practice as a form of partnership. Next, I understood that something I imagined I had created or invented myself actually existed before I found it—Touch Practice is more accurately something I discovered, something I became aware of rather than creating. I came to understand that this aspect of touch has probably existed in an infinite variety…
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My Very Last Blog (well, maybe!)
5Those of you who know me (and perhaps a few of you who don’t) have sensed that the way I carry Touch Practice has changed over this past year. I have changed too. This might be the last time I ever write in “blog” format …
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Checkout Time: Touch Practice and Dissociation
One of the wonderful things that can happen during a Touch Practice session is that the person I am working with becomes so comfortable and relaxed, he drifts off to sleep and naps while I hold him. Sometimes it is actual sleep, complete with purring, …
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Half of a Couple
I will often do Touch Practice with a person who is half of a couple. I’d say maybe 30 percent of the people who have come to Touch Practice would define themselves as “not single.” There’s a whole world to write about there. I think what …
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Our Next Workshop
There has been quite a flurry of communication about our next workshop—a workshop intended for experienced practitioners—and much of that discussion has centered on the issue of naked practice. It is a conversation that has caused me to wrestle, intellectually, and given me reason to …
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The Declaration of Interdependence
Dedicated with fondness and respect to my brothers from the Asheville workshop. Imagine a rich, lush garden, with row after row after row of healthy green plants, producing every variety of vegetable, above and below ground, vegetables of every size and color and shape. And …
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Holding Other
I get a good amount of mail from people asking if Touch Practice can be used to change a person’s sexual orientation. Comically, I get harsh accusations from some men alleging that I’m trying to turn perfectly “normal” straight guys (as they see it) into …
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The Teacher is in the Room!
When I was younger, I had a type of cancer that very few people survive. The diagnosis felt like a huge problem at the time, and I suppose it was. Ultimately I survived, but not before really giving serious thought to dying, and to understanding …
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So, is it naked or not?
A FASCINATING conversation has come up this week in corresponding with a number of readers, as well as workshop organizers in several cities, about Touch Practice. The basic essence of that conversation is: “so, you’re sending a double message. Is it naked or is it …
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Asheville Update
For today, just an informational update rather than anything too in depth. Besides, we’re coming up on the shortest, darkest day of the year, and while I know there are still 24 hours in every day, I don’t know about you, but my days feel really …
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Love it, Hate it, Meh: Spiritual Practice and Reactive Engagement, part two
In my last blog, I talked about the predictable phases of almost any spiritual practice, and how the mature phase of spiritual practice often is acquired only after traversing the mountain of fanaticism as well as the valley of profound disenchantment. In response to that …
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