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- BlogDear Reader: Welcome to my very first blog! This blog represents the next step of faith in a journey I never could have imagined ten years ago, a path full of unexpected turns, rich discoveries and shared connections—personal connections to some of you who might be reading at this very moment, as well as a larger sense of shared practice, kinship, and brotherhood with many of you whom I will never meet. What I now call “Touch Practice” began as an effort to explore and heal my own body. I thought of it as something I created, something invented or made up, just for me. I slowly realized that while it was profoundly healing for me, it also seemed to have tremendous benefit for others, and so it became something for “we” rather than something just for “me.” I began to think of Touch Practice as a form of partnership. Next, I understood that something I imagined I had created or invented myself actually existed before I found it—Touch Practice is more accurately something I discovered, something I became aware of rather than creating. I came to understand that this aspect of touch has probably existed in an infinite variety…
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Memory, Fantasy, Reality, and Time
2Eckhart Tolle’s brilliant book The Power of Now argues compellingly that the only thing that really exists, at all, is the thing we experience as “right now,” this moment. I think this book is insightful, and on one level I completely agree with him. The power of being …
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Marriage as a Weapon
This was an interesting week in politics. President Obama shares in an interview that he feels personally supportive of the idea that all people, regardless of gender, should be able to marry. A few days later, Rick Santorum urges Mitt Romney to “step up and …
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Walks between Worlds
I have learned everything I know about Touch Practice by practicing, by holding men. Hundreds of men. Hundreds of different men. Very, very different men. Some of the men I hold are conservative Republicans. Some are liberal Democrats. Some of the men I hold are …
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Ritual As a Container for Experience
The power of a cup of coffee in the morning (specifically, the caffeine it contains) doesn’t work quite the way many of us assume it does. In a non-habitual drinker, the caffeine in a cup of coffee certainly has a powerful physiological effect, raising blood …
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Body Language
One of the ways we defend ourselves against hurt is by taking things we experience in the body and intellectualizing them, turning them into thinking, stories, or talking, so that we can get away from the discomfort of feeling them. One of the techniques we …
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More than meets the eye
In the course of spending hundreds of hours learning how bodies work and how we communicate with physical (non-verbal) language, I have learned a great deal about eye contact. And what I have learned contradicts virtually everything that I always understood about eye contact. I …
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To weep with those who weep
Touch Practice is a practice of sitting with others–and ourselves–as we are, holding space for whatever we happen to be experiencing in the moment. When we have the support of someone else helping us to hold that space, it allows us to become conscious of …
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Partnering Each Other: Building Workshops
During the past two years, I’ve taught Touch Practice workshops ranging from a simple 2-hour introductory session for eight, all the way up to full weekend retreats for 24 men. While I am still committed to individual work, teaching groups of men about Touch Practice …
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Working Skillfully with Erotic Energy
I don’t plan what I’m going to blog about from week to week. Every Thursday or Friday, I go to the mountain and wait to hear Spirit speak, and when I hear something, I start writing it down. That can be a little nerve wracking, …
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To Begin Again
Here we are again, on the edge of another year. As I wrote in my last blog, “staying well,” “maintaining” or “hanging in there” are all utterly unnatural states of being. As I look around the Earth, things are either growing or dying; days are …
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