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- BlogDear Reader: Welcome to my very first blog! This blog represents the next step of faith in a journey I never could have imagined ten years ago, a path full of unexpected turns, rich discoveries and shared connections—personal connections to some of you who might be reading at this very moment, as well as a larger sense of shared practice, kinship, and brotherhood with many of you whom I will never meet. What I now call “Touch Practice” began as an effort to explore and heal my own body. I thought of it as something I created, something invented or made up, just for me. I slowly realized that while it was profoundly healing for me, it also seemed to have tremendous benefit for others, and so it became something for “we” rather than something just for “me.” I began to think of Touch Practice as a form of partnership. Next, I understood that something I imagined I had created or invented myself actually existed before I found it—Touch Practice is more accurately something I discovered, something I became aware of rather than creating. I came to understand that this aspect of touch has probably existed in an infinite variety…
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Dying for Affection
4I just finished holding someone from the Middle East who is here in the US for graduate school. Like all the people I hold, he is a beautiful guy, open-hearted, with deep, soulful eyes, thoughtful, curious. It was really a beautiful session, longer than most, almost …
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Bennett’s Story
[editor’s note: Last weekend, I offered a Touch Practice session to a young writer, and following our session, I asked him if he would be interested in writing about his experience for this week’s blog. I’m so grateful that he took me up on the …
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The Declaration of Interdependence
Dedicated with fondness and respect to my brothers from the Asheville workshop. Imagine a rich, lush garden, with row after row after row of healthy green plants, producing every variety of vegetable, above and below ground, vegetables of every size and color and shape. And …
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Sticks and Stones
“What other people think of you is none of your business.” In the course of carrying Touch Practice, I have been made into a hero, and I have been made into a villain. In the first category, some have attributed almost guru-like qualities to me, …
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That was great! Can we have sex now?
It does not happen often anymore, but it does still happen from time to time that I will finish a session with someone, go through the closing process (which is a bit like the shavasana period in yoga) and conclude our practice. Then, despite all …
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With Thanksgiving
This Thanksgiving weekend, I thought I would take a moment for gratitude, to give thanks for the many people and events who have moved me forward in Touch Practice and helped me find my way. I give thanks for all of those men who answered …
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Refraction!
As far as Touch Practice is concerned, I seem to have entered a period of profound reflection. At least that’s how I would describe it. Then a few weeks ago, one of my practice brothers and friends, a scientist, said, “I think you’re in a …
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The last hug
This weekend’s blog is dedicated with affection to the beautiful, full-hearted men of the Tampa workshop. I’ve written much here about what I’ve learned from physically holding hundreds of men in 60-90 minute individual sessions. Much of that information I have gleaned from the “approach …
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Keeping Fire
I grew up in a house that was heated by wood fires, one upstairs and one downstairs. My dad was the keeper of those fires until I became old enough to gradually take over that role. I’ve tended, literally, thousands of fires as I was …
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